Inspire Me..: Solange's Interview w/ Refinery 29: "(better late than never) After reading Solange’s latest interview with Refiniery29, I think it is needless to say that I'm inspired. I foun..."
I'm happy that I am in a position to decide whether or not I want to be a parent still. Parenting is a topic that many do not touch because it offends no matter how or what is said. So I propose that we offend to make way for a new thought.
My belief is that many parents do not realize that they are not raising there kids to be respectable citizens. Now a lot of people may ask "Dj how can you judge good parenting? You don't have kids that are successful. You don't even have kids. Nor, do you come from a long lineage of successful children? "
I think that not having kids and caring for children and dealing with their parents makes me great Judge for do's and Don't's. Hell, I have parents. There were lessons that should be taught to children that are missing in youth that are coming up. There are simple lessons about money and discipline to be taught.
Teaching kids about the value of a dollar should be done as soon as a child asks for something. There are too many false trust fund babies. This is because too many parents don't know how to say No and stick to it. Then Some parents don't teach the value of saving a dollar because they spend all of their money then look to the children. There is no reason to go in debt if you can't afford something say no and move on.
This then allows them to understand that you have to work. Once you work the house has a set income. We can do what is inside of this budgeted amount.
Discipline is lacking in a lot of children because they are not having to work for what they want. Parents are saying now I want to do better for my kids than what I had. We all know that the Journey to what you want is what you remember. The natural proclivity is to appreciate your success or present greatly when you have endured a true process.
In all my thoughts about New Parenting this the beginning I may be wrong! How do you suggest we do it?
Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®
The past month my Pastor has been teaching on different examples of relationships in the bible. He covered relationships from the relationship of David and Saul’s daughter to Abraham and Sarai. The relationship of Parent to child, spouse to spouse, and friendships were the topics that were derived from the bible for the month of february.
In the bible class on March 4, 2010 he spoke about life partners. He spoke about the different ways people are around other people. He gave the examples that people around for seasons, reasons, and lifetimes. This was very interesting to me because as humans we generally keep people around past the time that that they were supposed to be.
The person who is around for a reason is just there to teach a lesson and that is it. They are supposed to be let go once you get the lesson. The season person also teaches a lesson, but is around to help you understand the lesson. Also, they are not meant to endure a lifelong partnership with you. There are signs when to let both of these people exit. When they are causing more harm than good is a good time for them to exit. Every time you try to keep them around past their time it becomes a greater burden of frustration on you.
It should not be that big of burden to have a person in your life. Though there may be hurting with the lifetime person there is a common understanding to know why they are there and they allow you to be the best you. A life term person is trust worthy, and you are secure with the place that you have with them. You and this person allow each other to make mistakes and finally You all are with each other at your worst.
I challenge you to examine every person around you, and really dissect the relationship and see why they are there!