Congratulating people will always open the door for your success to come forward. Many times doors are closed to success because we are so negative. Many times we delve into the deep end over what we do not have. This allows us to neglect what we have and not realize we must be thankful for it. In order for your destiny to fully manifest you have to be willing and open to accept that its not yet your turn and be ready for your turn.
I see success all around me, in my closest acquaintances and in my family but i have to know that we do not have the goals. Also, we do not have the same promises that have been giving to us. This does not by a long shot mean that we must feel melancholy or accept that your dream has not come true. This just means be prepared for the dream to happen.
I am true a believer that you need to be aware of your character. You can easily get the dream. The character is what keeps you able to make it work. "Don't let your gift take you somewhere, where your character can not keep you" as spoken by Pastor John F. Hannah.
Make sure you are totally prepared for te dream to happen!!
The Light Skin Theory
So Caucasian people tan to get darker and darker African Americans tend to bleach their skin to become lighter. This alarming trend was brought to my attention by watching a show that I despise because I believe that the person is not genuine.
These women in particular, came on television and shared their beliefs and felt that it was cool to want lighter skin and that is why they bleach theirs. What is more absurd about this is they bleach their children’s skin along with theirs. The stereotype of lighter being better is a problem I have had to overcome throughout my existence. I know several women and men who subconsciously settle because they want a stereotypical beautiful lover. Now as far as my background goes, I am one of those guys who look for what I want to love, with my eyes. Shallow as I appear to be to some people, I am not against dating darker women. Now on the other side of the spectrum there are people who do not even look at darker skinned people because they feel they are “disgusting”. This is interestingly weird to me because they are of midnight complexion themselves. Liking lighter skinned women was a cover for me because I was not happy with me because a lot of girls passed on me not because I was not the stereotypical lighter toned guy. I was “too dark”!
I am guilty of being attracted to lighter toned women with long hair that are shapely. I personally think if she is lighter than me, she is light skinned (To justify my position, laughing). But personally, I have a heavy attraction to women and no matter what complexion they are, I look for features on them that are attractive to me and then that makes me become drawn to them. There probably are men who think the same way as these particular women I watched!
One way to look at this problem is through the psychological debate of nature v. Nurture. Nurture is the parenting at home and the surrounding family structure. Nature is the outside world. In most cases these women are blaming this issue on nurture ironically. Their parents believed this so they do as well. Parents told them that light skin was better and this opens the flood gates for them to believe such buffoonery.
This is a problem because being darker should not reach the level of disgust that it makes one bleach their skin to be lighter. I am personally happy to be of midnight complexion. I had to learn to be happy with me and what my appearance is. Being happy with me came not from outside people but a strong love for myself and my mother loving me. My mother is a shapely caramel toned woman with hair that grows at the snap of a finger and it is very thick. This is where I get my prototype of a woman from. I want my wife to be like my mother in some way, especially with her hair. My father is a deep brown colored man and his mother is closely darker than him. I would be disgracing my lineage if I ever said I do not want to ever date a darker woman.
In many cases these women have been so conditioned to their beliefs that their mind begins to let them see on an abnormal basis that their stereotypes are true.
Love stinks!
The way most people love each other is really odd. Women and Men are verbally and physically abusive to each other. Now I like I little spunk or attitude just as any man has their own preference to. On the other hand, when attitude turns to pots and pans, late night verbal assaults, and voices with decibels high enough to pierce the antique china, is just foolish.
People loving each other and the only way they can make up is sex. “NO”, I yell! This can’t possibly be love. I think this just keeps you in the stupor. This most definitely is not love that’s more like lust or some other foolishness. Let me back track for a second. In my marriage I will most definitely be having sex with my wife. This most definitely is not a bash against sex. I haven’t been fully delivered so I cannot bash anybody for doing the same things I do. I would then be hypocritical, I despise hypocrites. With that said, there is more to love than the physical or the feelings of sex.
Love is these questions. Does she kiss me when I know my breathe stinks? (Laughing at myself) Is my lover encouraging my dreams? Is my lover warning me of traps that are set for me? Am I willing to push her forward even if I have to hold back? Do I care enough about her feelings to not intentionally hurt them? I realize Love is a reciprocal feeling. I also think that Love is an attachment to the inner beauty of a person. The morning smile the person has. The drive you want your partner to have so that it syncs to yours. There is a vast number of more things that people know when true love is around.
Love is portrayed in such a negative light on many occasions that I am not sure that I even want it to come around me. I see on a daily basis men and women and women in several “committed” relationships at once. I’m personally too selfish and lazy to want anybody who is taken and to have more than one relationship. I know me and I am too bad with time management to have more than one relationship. See that’s something that my wife will either have to accept or pray to change. (Laughing) Ironically a part of me applauds those that have the time management skills to do it. See God Knew what he was doing by making my time management skills the way they are.
I know love to be a great and genuine emotion, when it’s on television. I think that what I want is what so many men quietly long for and refuse to yield to. I think that what I really need to do is seek God. I know love is praying for your partner when all the chips are down and flowing the right way. I think of love as Russian roulette a good portion time. Follow this theory. The gun is has one bullet and you spin the barrel and close it and fire. The first shot could be eternal love. It could also be a miss. Then you open the chamber or barrel and put another bullet in and shoot. The bullets are relationships that are either meaningful or wrong. NO relationship is detrimental if you learn and leave. So you are continuing to load your gun, you are shooting and your loading your gun with these bullets. The bullets are also lessons you have taken from the past. Then finally you pull the trigger and you are surrounded with what I would like to call Love Eternal!
Maybe it’s me or should I stop Loving?